I was already planning to go out to Tesco on the scooter in the nice cold fresh air, but the situation with the housemate had made me feel paralysed, balancing between despair and total rage. My friend was able to talk to me for 10 minutes, and encouraged me to gain the strength to get up off the bed. So I did, and I went out, hoping to reset myself and gain some calm from the outdoors.
But then on the way back I did an almost hilariously stupid thingβ there’s one (three-lane) road I usually have to cross over on the way back at some traffic lights, and I usually glance up to see what colour they areβ if red then I stop and see if there’s anything coming, because that particular traffic light sequence is fixed and takes forever to change, and at night the cars come in bunches with big gaps between.
Anyway, I saw they were red, but in my mind interpreted them as green (red for me, therefore green for cars). And as I was approaching the crossing, they changed to amber (so in my mind they were changing to red, but they were changing to green since they started off red!). As I started crossing I did a quick last glance to the right (as I usually do) to check the cars were actually stopping, only to see that I’d just narrowly avoided being run over, and cars on the next two lanes were approaching, though slowing. It was terrifyingly close with the first car, and it was so disconcerting to go and check the lights and see they were green.
I’m really annoyed at myself for doing such a stupid thing, even whilst doing everything right and being careful as always. I cycled for years on roads, including busy ones, over tens of thousands of miles, and I’ve done over a thousand on the electric scooters and never made a mistake as big as that before. And all while trying to do something to help myself and which took a lot of strength to go out and do, and it almost backfired spectacularly π.
I’m also annoyed because it was obviously exacerbated by the mental state I was already in, because of the stress from the housemates. And for sure my mind was stressed and busy at the time, even as I tried to relax. At the very same time I was consciously trying to break out of a looping OCD thought, which is typical anyway whenever I try to relax at the moment. And there’s been plenty of situations where OCD has almost led to disaster, especially when I had to live in my car. So I guess I should just feel lucky and go easy on myself.
πͺ
Thank God you are alive! It is most certainly is caused by the constant stress and the over exhausted nerves. It diminishes the ability to concentrate, interpreting environment etc.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you π. Yeah thank god indeed :). My local friend recently encouraged me to be more careful too, after the old scooter almost killed me when it was falling apart π. So that was strong in my mind after this, and I felt bad because she has to rely on me a lot.
At least I can now tell myself that my judgement might be reduced especially in these situations, and in future slow down more and be less of a speed demon π.
LikeLike
Speed demon πππ€£
LikeLiked by 2 people
π€π
LikeLike
You really should try.
Even just this one time π€π€
LikeLiked by 1 person
Try what, sorry? Dying? π
LikeLiked by 1 person
I definitely didn’t mean dying no!!
π³π
Your last lines there – ‘so I guess I should just feel lucky and go easy on myself’ – that is what I meant.
It’s something I have to remind myself of more than once a day too π€π€π€
LikeLiked by 1 person
ππ€£π€£. It did made me laugh though!
It’s definitely not always easy to do! Go easy on yourself Charmer π€π€π€
LikeLiked by 1 person
π€π€π€
LikeLiked by 1 person
Oh going easy on myself. No to be honest that’s something I’ve got surprisingly good at over the last year, compared to a year ago. It fluctuates a bit but it’s been consistently increasing. I am usually quite good at it, but with this it was a whole mixture of emotions. Annoyance at myself was only a part of what I was feeling, and the easiest part to fix actually. Thank you! π
LikeLiked by 1 person
Sorry, your comment did really help me to decide to go easy on myself π.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I’m glad π€π€
LikeLiked by 1 person
I have 2 fucking seedlings growing!!! I made a seedling incubator this week to start growing chilli plants and I’ve been checking multiple times per day and now there’s suddenly 2 beautiful tiny plants!!! I’ll post about it later with a photo πππ. Something positive! My seedlings almost outlived me lol. I actually can’t believe they’re growing haha.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Imagine that!! Being outlived by your chilli plant! π¬π
No, I’m glad to hear of something positive to focus on and to nurture too! πππ€
LikeLiked by 1 person
π€£π€£π€¦ββοΈ. I’ve been waiting all week for something to sprout too, would’ve been the greatest irony πππ. My chillis would’ve been haunted. Ghost chillis ππ.
And yes it is indeed a satisfying project! I’m aiming to become expert at this and growing plants from cuttings, so I can multiply my plants and sell them π :D. It takes some time though π .
LikeLike
Omg that’s scary- glad you’re okay!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you Pooja π
Six-word story right there π€£π€£π€£ nice one.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Lol I literally can’t stop!
LikeLiked by 1 person
a concentrate of emotions! Are you better now?
LikeLiked by 1 person
Sounds like a great plan! π
Looking forward to seeing more about it as time goes on! π€
LikeLiked by 1 person
Commented in the wrong place – this was obviously about your chilli project! πππ€
LikeLiked by 1 person
Oh π π₯². Yeah I thought it could be interesting for people to see the progress actually :D. Share the joy of plants π. π
LikeLiked by 1 person
Absolutely!! We all need a bit of positivity!! π And I definitely need to explain myself more / comment in the right place in the thread!!! ππ€£π€
LikeLiked by 1 person
These threads can be confusing and send you silly LC……now where do I but in and talk about chilli progress?…..just pick a spot and hope for the best?…..
LikeLiked by 2 people
They can get confusing to be fair… Maybe it would be easier on Robin’s blog – on his original post a few weeks back? Otherwise I fear your conversation may get lost… ππ€
LikeLiked by 1 person
That would be extra work in my notifications feedβ¦π. Oh wait, we’re actually on my blog right now π.
LikeLiked by 1 person
π€£π€£π€£π€£
Seems it’s not only Don that finds these threads confusing!! π
I’ll shut up now! ππ€
LikeLiked by 1 person
Sorted….
LikeLiked by 2 people
Jeez Robin/LC I’m all at sea here…..going back in your blog time doesn’t help either……from what I have previously read you have excelled yourself in the chilli-raising department… well done….you will now be able to go to the next stage – the produce-selling stage ….
Some people say I’m silly Robin. Not LC. Isn’t she nice? I may be silly Robin – but I’m happy….
LikeLiked by 2 people
No you’re mad as a bat!! π€£
LikeLiked by 1 person
Or blind as a hatter if you like.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Call me what one likes – I’m happy…
LikeLiked by 2 people
You mean dying!!!???!?!? π’π’π’
LikeLike