Unboxable

β€œYou prefer doing things by yourself, rather than with other people”,
”Hmmm, well it depends…
I prefer writing by myself,
But I prefer socialising–– with other people”,

β€œYou would rather go to a party than to the library”,
”What? This makes no sense haha,
I like both…
At different times,
And in different moods”,

β€œYou cannot usually read between the lines”,
”Strongly agree…
But also strongly disagree”,

β€œYou can easily imagine being in someone else’s place”,
”Strongly agree,
But I cannot relate to not being able to do that…”,

β€œYou do not cope well with changes in routine”,
”Strongly disagree ––
I love spontaneity,
But only if it’s for a good cause,
Or to have an equivalent amount of fun,
In that order of priority”,

β€œYou prefer the big picture over looking into details”,
”Depends on what it is…
I notice details in certain situations, but not necessarily because I want to,
And in others I don’t notice;
In others I want to notice,
And in other’s I don’t…”,

β€œβ€“β€“ Which do I circle?”.

Also, these seem like the old-fashioned autism questions–– where are the ones about executive function or sensory issues…?

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15 thoughts on “Unboxable

  1. Brilliant and clever, Robin. And very witty. Until I got to the end, I thought you were taking examples from the Myers Briggs, which, you may well know, is very similar to the one you are quoting. Yes, it’s all very context dependent, isn’t it? I don’t want to argue with health professionals, or cause any uneasiness for you, but have you ever thought that you are simply a Highly Sensitive Person (I am), and therefore you sometimes find it very hard to live in a world which can be very difficult to cope with?

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    1. Yeah, I have no idea what particular name that questionnaire had, if any. I guess it must’ve had a name.

      Oh please do argue with health professionals, lol…and with me, I appreciate any suggestions and I’m always open-minded.

      That’s a good point and a reasonable question. But, all the up-to-date stuff I’ve learned about autism places executive function and sensory issues highly as things in common between autistic people. There’s also the social issues, which I definitely had, but I learend in my own ways how to interact with people, and also how to enjoy it. That was quite late–– when I was 22. Before that point I strongly disliked socialising, and after it I strongly enjoyed it.

      If I was answering a questionnaire including questions about those things, and the questions were more answerable as opposed to open-ended, it would look very different.

      What I also find interesting though, is that a lot of the things I don’t relate to in β€˜typical’ autism, are things that are β€˜classic’ ADHD–– such as a love/need for novelty. From my perspective, it feels like they’re overlaying each other, which also completely makes sense when I look at my mum and dad’s side of the family and which traits they have.

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    2. Overall, my only conclusion, which has yet to be denied, is that i’m just β€˜unboxable’! I relate to a lot of different things from different things.

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    3. Thanks so much by the way for the compliment! Wasn’t expecting that, i didn’t try hard to make it witty haha. I just got to the end and it seemed that way, then I enhanced it a little more :). It started off as just a description.

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  2. Is is odd that I only ever see the detail and can’t see the big picture. I can describe minute details of a walk to a place, but have no idea of where I have been. And as for the big signs in airports, public places generally, I never, ever see them. God it makes my life hard work! Any suggestions? Best wishes, Katie

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    1. That does sound really difficult! Are you able to drive? I actually often get lost in places that require lots of signs, because I usually interpret them wrong, lol. Like I recently went to Ikea by myself for the first time… and it was a nightmare! Never going back! Worst-designed place, ever. The person who designed it must be an idiot because that’s the perfect way to get people out of your store! (In my opinion).

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      1. Well it’s funny you should say this … firstly, (and you may already know this from my blog) that in 2018 I cycled from the north to the south of France on my own. Yes, I got lost a lot … an awful lot actually, but it was amazing and despite the getting lost bit, I did manage to find my way in the end (sea on the right, Alps on the left). But more importantly, I too recently went to Ikea. I was fine in going round, because I knew to follow the big arrows on the floor and not to try to deviate from them and take short cuts … my problem was on leaving. I had taken the boat (I live in Manhattan) and by the time I left, it was dark, the car park was virtually empty and I couldn’t for the life of me remember where (or see) the river and said boat. Too many bags, all heavy, too many dodgy looking cab drivers offering me $10 rides back to the city (yeah right!) so I took the bus and then the subway and two hours later arrived back at home. Nightmare. Completely lost. Never going on my my own there again. Saga obviously over, but will now go and find out if I’m autistic. I think you might have a point!

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      2. I didn’t actually know that about the cycle ride! That’s really impressive, on your own too and with a habit of getting lost! You must have so many amazing memories from it. I should find your posts about it at some point!

        That’s amazing that you’ve been reflecting and wondering about autism. Whichever way it turns out, it’s just great that you’re so open-minded. That’s probably itself an aspect of autism haha! Autistic people tend to be more open-minded/curious/challenge beliefs. But they can also go to the opposite extreme on that, haha.

        You may find this blog helpful or interesting!
        https://oldladywithautism.blog

        Especially this post:
        https://oldladywithautism.blog/2020/01/22/autism-in-elders/

        Note I am saying nothing about your personal age! (I have no idea about it :D).

        Good look :).

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      3. Oh my … I’ve just read this and it’s quite incredible .. what a read. I wonder if it feels like a relief to have the diagnosis… I need to read more. Thanks for suggesting the blog. Katie

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      4. Oh and sorry, I missed your actual question, β€œAm I able to drive?”. Yes in the daylight as long as I’m not required to speak or use a Sat Nav. I’m not probably the most reassuring person to have as a driver as I’m fairly highly strung …. hmmm.

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  3. Unboxable is a brilliant term and should be used far more widely. After extensive experience of life and living and working abroad a lot I have come to the conclusion that very few people are ‘normal’, obviously including me. In our family, we often say ‘Weird is good’ because none of us are exactly neurotypical. We love to have conversations about all sorts of random stuff and we laugh a lot. We don’t believe in taking life too seriously, because what’s the point? Sometimes I can easily believe that this entire world is some kind of weird cosmic experiment or joke, and we’ll be told the punchline when we die. That’s fine. I really enjoy life, on the whole, and I don’t want the suspense to end, but I am intrigued to know what it really is all about!

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    1. Haha! I relate to most of what you said in that! Indeed, it’s too interesting not to try to have fun talking about all random stuff. And it’s too chaotic to possibly take it seriously. I mean look who we have as presidents etc. It clearly IS a cosmic experiment.

      Thank you! It would be great if ‘unboxable’ became more widely-used :D. It’s funny because it’s also an oxymoronβ€” somebody who is ‘unboxable’, by definition, is ‘unboxable’, if you see what I mean!

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